Indlela yokujongana nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo
Ukuba usandul’ ukujamelana nokusweleka komntu omthandayo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uzifumana ukwindawo emnyama nenzima. Nangona ingekho indlela yokuba uzikhuphe kuzo zonke iimvakalelo ezingakhiyo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ube nembono eyakhayo ngakumbi. Intlungu yinto embi, kodwa akufuneki ibe sisiphelo sakho. Ukuba uzimisele ukuyilawula le meko kwaye utyhale indlela yakho kwintlungu, kuya kufuneka ubambe la macebiso mane alandelayo. Sinethemba lokuba baya kukunceda ukwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo.
Zilungiselele iziganeko ezizayo
Ingcebiso yokuqala kukuzilungiselela iminyhadala ezayo, ngakumbi ezo zinokukhathaza ngokweemvakalelo njengomngcwabo kunye nokuvuka. Oku kuya kukusindisa ekumangalisweni ngamaza amatsha entlungu. Ukuze uzilungiselele, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngokufundwa kwentando yomntu omthandayo, umngcwabo wabo, ukuvuka kwabo, kunye nokukhutshwa kwezinto zabo. Ukuba kuya kubakho ubuza ekufeni komntu omthandayo, kufuneka ufumanise ukuba oku kubandakanya ntoni na ngokuthetha nokuqesha iingcali eziyiqondayo le nkqubo. Ulwazi oluninzi onokuthi uluqokelele ngcono, njengoko oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uzilungiselele ngokweemvakalelo yonke into ezayo.
Fumana abantu abathembekileyo oza kubathemba ngeemvakalelo zakho
Ingcebiso elandelayo kukufumana abantu abathembekileyo oza kubathemba ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba uza kujongana ngempumelelo nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, kubalulekile ukuba ube nabantu abaninzi onokuthi uthembele kubo. Nanini na xa unosuku oluphantsi, kufuneka ukwazi Yabelanani ngomthwalo wenu nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye namalungu osapho. Nangona kunjalo, ngeli xesha linzima, unokufumanisa ukuba abanye abantu obathandayo abafuni ukunyuka. Ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uzikhwebule kwaba bantu, njengoko baya kukucaphukisa. Kufuneka ucacise ingxaki yakho kubantu obathandayo abathembeke ngakumbi, njengoko oku kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba ufuna kangakanani inkxaso yabo.
Yabelana nabanye abantu abasentlungwini
Kwakhona kusenokunceda ukufikelela kwabanye abantu abasentlungwini. Eli linyathelo eliluncedo kakhulu onokuthi ulithathe ukuba uyasokola ukufumana nabani na onento yokwenza nentlungu yakho. Kunokuba ukhule ukhathazekile ngesangqa sakho sentlalo, kuya kufuneka undwendwele iiforum ze-intanethi zabantu abasentlungwini. Kufuneka kwakhona ujonge nawaphi na amaqela enkxaso abanjwe kwingingqi yakho. Isenokuvakala ngathi yinto eyoyikisayo, kodwa ukuthwala umphefumlo wakho kubantu ongabaziyo kunokuba ngamava akhululayo.
Fumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuvalelisa
Okokugqibela kodwa kuncinci, kufuneka ufumane ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuvalelisa. Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukunyanzelwa ukuba uvumele lowo umthandayo ahambe ngaphambi kokuba ulungele. Oku kuya kuba nemiphumo eyintlekele ngakumbi ezantsi emgceni, njengoko uya kushiyeka nothotho lweemvakalelo ezingasonjululwanga. Xa sele ulungile ekugqibeleni, kufuneka ufumane eyakho indlela yokuyeka uhambe. Oku kunokubandakanya nantoni na ukusuka ekubhaleni umntu omthandayo ileta okanye ukubaleka ugqatso egameni lakhe. Yintlungu yakho, ke ekugqibeleni sisigqibo sakho omele usenze.